Dealing with Rejection

Lately I have been thinking a lot about rejection. In my life I have faced quite a bit of rejection, maybe more than others, or maybe not. For some reason however, each time I have been rejected, it has only propelled me forward and energized me. Strange isn’t it? For me rejection has often translated to taking risks. I love taking risks. I thrive on challenging myself to do things that cause my heart to race and a nervous flip flop flutter in my stomach to ensue.

When you take a lot of risks in life, well, you will probably face more rejection than others who live in a more cautious risk-adverse state. When I was younger rejection used to take a toll on my self-esteem and it took some time for me to bounce back.

Now each time I am rejected because of taking a risk, I congratulate myself for moving outside my comfort zone. I don’t want to look back on my life and have one “What If…” after another. For me wondering eats away at the core of my inner self. If I have an inner drive to do something, I just need to do it, deal with the outcome, and then move on with my life.

When someone tells me they are worried about taking a risk because they might face rejection, I tell them, “Take the risk! Be bold! Live Courageously! Rejection will do wonders for your self-esteem!” Rejection can be a catalyst for self-reflection. It can force you to answer questions such as, “Was there anything I could have done differently?” Rejection tests your strength of character. It can either reaffirm who you are (a positive) or serve as a dead weight that will hold you back (a negative). Lastly, rejection can force you to dig deep and pull out a cob-webbed piece of your self-esteem you didn’t know you had.

One of my favorite quotes is by Eleanor Roosevelt. She said, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”  If you allow rejection to dictate your self worth, you are in for a very long and painful life. If however you view rejection has a gift, your life will that much more rich.

So, go out there, take a risk, and face rejection head on. Guess what? You may just win the battle!


One Response to “Dealing with Rejection”

  1. drtombibey Says:

    I posted my thoughts on rejection today.

    Dr. B

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